Caring for plants makes me think about life.
Rethinking My Life and Getting Out of Survival Mode.
Sadly, most people’s lives are filled to the brim with the nonessential and trivial. They don’t have time to build toward anything meaningful.
They are in survival mode. Are you in survival mode?
Like Bilbo, most of us are like butter scraped over too much bread. Unfortunately, the bread is not even our own, but someone else’s. Very few have taken the time to take their lives into their own hands.
It was social and cultural to live our lives on other people’s terms just one generation ago. And many millennials are perpetuating this process simply because it’s the only worldview we’ve been taught.
However, there is a growing collective-consciousness that with a lot of work and intention — you can live every moment of your life on your own terms.
You are the designer of your destiny.
You are responsible.
You get to decide. You must decide — because if you don’t, someone else will. Indecision is a bad decision.
With this short morning routine, your life will quickly change.
It may seem like a long list. But in short, it’s really quite simple:
- Wake up
- Get in the zone
- Get moving
- Put the right food in your body
- Get ready
- Get inspired
- Get perspective
- Do something to move you forward
Why It’s Okay to Slow Down
Those who grow slow, bear the best fruit.
If you are afraid of getting behind or off track, you most likely have always done everything exactly when you were supposed to do it. In high school, you studied hard, got good grades, joined the right clubs, and took some courses. When it was time to graduate high school, you followed the path and went to college. You went to college because that’s what was the natural next step and what you had been taught to do.
You most likely went to a safe school where you knew you could be successful. You picked a major and the classes that allowed you to finish school on in four years and make a decent salary. You joined clubs that you knew would look good on your resume. But what you had forgotten to do was take risks.
You chose not to study aboard or do a certain internship because you were afraid it would stop you from graduating “on time.” You chose to play it safe and not take a risk that would allow you the opportunity to gain life experience a college campus could never give you.
After living a cautious, “on time” life for twenty years I finally decided to take a risk. I took a semester off from school and spent seven months working at Walt Disney World.
My world has been forever expanded from this experience. My life dreams and goals changed and grew to things I never would have imagined before. I started to wonder “What does it mean to graduate on time?” and “Who says I have to spend exactly four years, taking exactly the right classes?” I had to change my attitude about my pace.
Changing your attitude about pace can be difficult because you are subject to your friends’ Facebook and Instagram posts about what they are doing with their lives. When they get a new job, they post it. When they get engaged, they post it. When they have a baby, they post it. Social media allows us to keep everyone in our social web informed.
Don’t get me wrong, I love posting on social media just as much as the next millennial (if not more). I truly do love that I was able post on social media to inform my entire family of my new internship rather than having to make separate phone calls. But I also think it makes it easier to compare ourselves to our friends and where they are in life.We can’t all be on the same page and social media gives up the idea that we need to catch up to those ahead of us or its places a stigma on those that are “behind” us. We need to realize there is no right or “on time” to be doing something in life because we are different.
It is okay to look at the constant stream of engagement and pregnancy announcements and think, “I am not there yet”. Its okay to see the graduation pictures when you still have an extra year of school to finish. We are not all the same people and some of us need more time and some of us need less time. Time is on our side.
So if you want to, take the risks. Don’t compare yourself to your friends’ Instagram pages (for all you know they feel the same way despite their new job). You have the time to travel, transfer schools, or change your major 4 times. Take risks, learn as much as you can, and don’t rush into the being in the real adult phase if you don’t feel ready yet.
If you choose to go at your own pace, you also have the best answer to the dreaded “What are you doing with your life?” question. You can always answer with, “I’m taking my time.”
*A note for my self and my family
AMATI, TERLIBAT, TULISKAN